How to Live a Fulfilled Life

Jan 25, 2021

“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” Source: The Living Wisdom of Howard Thurman: A Visionary for Our Time

 

The disconnect between how I appeared to others and the way I felt inside ate me up inside.

Outside, I seemed the picture of success. Happily married. A serial entrepreneur with a portfolio of companies. Financially independent. Everything society views as successful.

In the past, I’d delighted in those successes. But now, I felt burdened, unmotivated and oh so drained.

What happened to my excitement and resilience? Where did my energy go? And worse, would I ever get them back? 

 

Life on Overdrive

In a previous article, I explained how a teacher made me feel less than others because of my family’s poverty. That one event spurred me into overdrive.

All I wanted was success. So, I spent my 20s focused on building successful businesses.

If I needed a new skill to succeed, I’d learn it. Physical or intellectual, didn’t matter. Whatever I needed to improve, I’d do it. 

I read… a lot.

What did millionaires do? What did billionaires do? What did it take to build profitable companies? I’d search out successful business people and follow their guidance.

I took assessments. Hundreds of them, probably closer to a thousand.

Not to find my passion or ‘what I was meant to do’. I didn’t know those terms yet. I wasn’t concerned about the ‘right path’.

I needed to stay motivated and driven.

This was all about being a high performer. How could I do better? Maintain a high energy to go, go, go. If a tool could help me push harder and go further I would buy it.

 

Swept Into a New Phase

This drive swept me right into my 30s. Then, my focus turned to wealth.

But not just financial wealth.

A wealth of self-discovery. Of purpose and passion. About my own responsibility to find—and fix—what was ‘broken’ inside. I wanted to flourish.

Up until then, I liked how the world saw me. A successful entrepreneur. A multiple business owner with retail shops here, bitcoin farms there and a variety of businesses in between.

Quantity mattered. Until it didn’t.

Suddenly, collecting businesses lost its appeal. The prospect of owning another business no longer thrilled me. I didn’t even want all the ones I had.

Whatever drove me before, disappeared. I felt dissatisfied. Disengaged. My compass was gone. Every little challenge tossed me around.

Although my family life was good, all this stuff under the surface ate away at me.

I hated not being happy.

So, I downsized. Closed businesses that weren’t performing. Sold off the businesses I owned just to say I owned them. It took time, but bit by bit, I freed up my time.

As life calmed down, it revealed an emptiness and lack of purpose.

And something even worse.

 

I’ve Been Lying to Myself For a Long Time.

I’d spent years chasing the ‘perceived view of success’… yet here I was, still unfulfilled.

As I searched for answers, I felt like a caterpillar wrapped up in a chrysalis. Constrained and pushing against the boundaries of my limitations. I knew there had to be something more.

So, I set out to seek out my strengths and passions. And oh, was I in for a surprise.

What I thought were my strengths, were actually learned skillsets. But since I was so good at them, I assumed it was what I was meant to do.

However, I didn’t actually enjoy doing those jobs.

 

A Key Discovery

When you don’t like what you do, all your energy goes into hyping yourself up for the task. Your energy well empties before you even start.

You have nothing left to give. No motivation. No concern about finding more efficient methods. No ideas to contribute and zero innovations.

It’s like you’re pushing uphill all the time.

Day after day, after day. This dissatisfaction can’t help but spill over into the rest of your life.

For me, this discovery was a huge relief.

I understood why I felt disengaged and unfulfilled.  The truth had finally become clear…

You can’t flourish until you do what you’re meant to be doing.

The butterfly had broken through the chrysalis and was about to spread her wings.

 

What Was I Meant To Be Doing?

I wanted to flourish.

To live with passion and purpose.

I needed to discover what I was meant to be doing.

Turns out, this wasn’t as easy as I thought. I took one test over here. Another assessment over there. Worked through a bunch more programs and professionals.

But it was worth the effort. I discovered my strengths. Understood my natural talents. Learned what inspired me and what sapped my energy. 

Then I hit a snag.

After all this information was revealed to me… that was it. I was on my own.

No one offered a way to put this knowledge into action and long-term accountability.

 

A Spark Of An Idea

My struggle sparked an idea.

What about all those other people who felt disengaged and dissatisfied?

Yes, some great assessments were available. But you had to find what suited your situation first.

Then what happens once someone discovers their strengths and natural talents? Learning about them isn’t enough.

All this does is create chaos and overwhelm.

You can’t go back and pretend you don’t know something once it’s revealed to you.

I knew I could find my way. But what about those who didn’t have my perseverance, a positive mindset or a good support system?

It took way too much effort to figure it all out on your own and even more to accomplish it.

By this time, I knew my purpose was to help others.

Could I make this process easier?

 

Living More Fulfilled

You lead a more fulfilled life when you work with your natural strengths. 

The science of Positive Psychology tells us “we flourish when we cultivate our talents and strengths”. And it’s backed up by many scientific evidences.

So, I came up with an idea to help entrepreneurs.

A hub. A building for meetings and workshops. All the tools and support they needed.

However, my passion caused me to jump in too quickly. I made some fundamental mistakes and the business wasn’t sustainable. It had to close.

But I wasn’t done yet.

I created Life Compass for both entrepreneurs and career-oriented individuals. 

To help people find their purpose and passion and live a more fulfilled life.

Everything in one place. All the tools, trained professionals and the resources needed to guide you to your ideal life.  See how it’s laid out here.

My vision is to see everyone living with purpose while doing what they were meant to do.

My vision includes you.

I’d love to know what would make your life more fulfilled. Tell me in the comments below.