Ready to Transition to What You Were Meant To Do?Jan 25, 2021
The unhappiness all around us pains me. Because I know it doesn’t have to be this way.
It’s in the anger directed at other drivers on the roads. The poor quality of food in restaurants. The impatient and uncaring attitude at many businesses.
The symptoms of deep dissatisfaction.
A lack of joy in how people earn a living. That negativity spilling out into all aspects of life.
Society says how much we earn is more important than how we earn it. Many feel stuck in work that leaves them unfulfilled and dissatisfied.
Just the fact you’re here, shows you’re ready for something more.
The Importance of a Fulfilling Life
A life filled with passion and purpose is priceless.
It’s where you find fulfillment. Your joy. The chance to tap into what makes you unique and affect a positive change around you.
Yet a Gallup study of 45 countries, showed 85% of employees are disengaged at work.
Indifferent. Putting in the time but not the energy. With zero motivation to live up to their potential.
So how do you find the life that’s right for you?
Conquer the Four Fears
The first step starts in your mind. Defeat the four fears.
- Fear of change
- Fear of the unknown
- Fear of failure
- Fear of success
Let’s look at these in more depth.
Fear of Change
We’re actually hardwired to resist change. It scares us. Our brain sees change as a threat and wants to protect us. That’s why we prefer to stay where we feel safe and comfortable.
You need to be mentally prepared and make a conscious decision to change.
Think about your own level of dissatisfaction. Compare where you are right now to where you want to be.
- What are the consequences if you don’t change?
- Does the benefit of change outweigh your dissatisfaction?
Once you decide to change, half the battle is won.
Fear of the Unknown
The fear of change and fear of the unknown go hand-in-hand.
We’re afraid to change because we don’t know where it’s going to lead. We can’t see what’s ahead.
The truth is everything is unknown. No one knows what’s coming.
Still, we move forward every day.
Did you know we take a risk every time we get into a car? With the high percentage of accidents, it’s always a risk. But being in the car is familiar. And we’re comfortable with what’s known.
However, we’re not comfortable with change, because everything about change is unfamiliar.
The right planning helps calm those fears.
Change as a Catalyst
I know what it’s like to face the fear of change and the unknown.
My whole life has been a sequence of changes. I spent years climbing a never-ending ladder towards a “perceived view of success”. A view I developed as a child born into poverty.
Yet change has been a huge catalyst for success in my life.
Moving to Canada from Jamaica was huge. But there was more at stake in our move from Quebec to Ontario.
We saw an opportunity for something better in Ontario. But it would mean building a whole new business. Should we leave our comfortable life in Quebec and step out into the unknown?
So, we laid out our vision and took the initial steps:
- created a business plan
- considered all viable options
- planned for worst-case scenarios
A clear vision and a solid plan helped us overcome our fear and we moved forward.
This change catapulted us to new levels of success. Something we’d never have known, if we’d chosen to stay safe and secure in Quebec.
A Clear Vision
If you aren’t clear on what you want for your ideal life, the unknown creates fear. This fear makes it hard to start the process.
Reduce your fear by setting out a clear vision. This picture lifts you with excitement. And empowers you to take action.
Action helps overcome both the fear of change and the unknown
But, please don’t jump off without a plan. Do the work first:
- set aside time to think
- figure out what’s involved
Yes, the unknown may still feel scary. But give yourself the best chance for success by planning well.
Still, life doesn’t come with guarantees. This uncertainty leads us to the next fear.
The Fear of Failure
This fear stops so many before they even start.
Keeps them from becoming who they were created to be. Limits their possibilities for a better future.
Often, it’s more the fear of shame than the fear of failure.
We can usually manage the basic emotions of failure—disappointment, frustration or anger. But shame hits us at our core.
We feel awful for not accomplishing our goal. Incapable of facing ourselves and even worst, others. Dreading their opinions and the new beliefs they’ll have about us.
This type of thinking keeps us from seeing the true value wrapped up in failure.
In reality, failure gives you strength.
This is where you learn. Failure teaches you to stretch and grow. To rise up better, wiser, more successful.
Plan to Overcome
As you design your ideal life, consider the roadblocks you may encounter.
Those from within and others from your environment.
Plan for ‘what if’ scenarios. Think about possible solutions to help overcome your roadblocks.
The more prepared you are, the greater your chance of success. Manage the degree of risk you’ll take.
It’s not IF failure will happen, but when.
Take those failures and mold them into building blocks of success. Well thought-out plans can help you overcome the fear of failure.
Fear of Success
Let’s take a moment and go into the future mentally:
- you’ve designed your ideal life
- you’ve taken massive action
- you’ve started seeing more success than you ever anticipated
How do you feel?
If you feel uncomfortable or anxious, then my friend, you have a fear of success.
You feel unworthy of attracting greatness into your life. That you should be content with what you have. With a job that you hate.
Let me tell you… it’s all a lie.
I didn’t have a fear of success until I reached a certain level along my entrepreneurial journey.
Then I started to question myself.
- Who was I to be successful?
- Why should I make it, when so many failed?
- What’s so special about me?
I told myself I didn’t want to be greedy. But eventually, I had to put that fear aside.
It was my responsibility to become the best version of myself. We rob the world of what it truly needs by being less than our full potential.
Give the World the Gift of Your Natural Strengths and Passions
You’re doing yourself—and the world—a disservice when you don’t utilize your natural strengths and passions.
Find the role that you were created to be in.
Give yourself permission to feel:
- excited to face your workday
You won’t overcome these four fears in one day.
But other people—billions of them—conquered them. And you can too.
If you know you’re not living the life you want… start with a positive vision for your future.
Then take concrete steps to make the vision a reality.
I can help.
Life Compass has all the tools and resources you need to shift your mindset. To help you lay out a solid foundation and step out into entrepreneurship the right way.
In a way that equips you to succeed.
Find everything you need right here at Life Compass.
What fear holds you back and how does it affect you? Let me know in the comments.